Because we like to “keep it real”, heart centered people tend to forget to look back at accomplishments to validate the abundance that has come their way. While it’s true that integrity is doing the right thing even when no one is looking; many of us have been taught that it’s selfish to celebrate our accomplishments.
Yeah…that was a bunch of bull! I’m here to tell you that accomplishments build confidence!
Accomplishments are like instant therapy. Think about it….
You set out to get a job or project done…something you probably put your heart and soul into. You worked hard and you finished it. It had to make you feel good, right? Relief…Satisfaction…Endorphin High? You get the picture.
You can use past accomplishments as a way of boosting your confidence. Instead of waiting for other people to build you up, learn how to encourage yourself. This will really help when you’re feeling bummed about a potential client not signing up to work with you or if a speaking gig you really wanted didn’t work out.
You can past accomplishments to boost my confidence when I’m about to step up and play bigger in my business. Let’s face it; doing something new and bigger can sometimes cause those little hater voices to start singing in our heads. You know I’m right…
“Who do you think you are starting your own business?”
“Now you know you’re not really qualified for that new job.”
“Remember that mistake you made on your last project?”
Yep! I hear them haters almost every day. But I’ve learned how to shut them up. And you can too.
Take out a piece of paper and do this…
Think of the details of a past accomplishment you’ve had. This accomplishment can be from any life experience i.e., work, family, athletics, or activities from one of your hobbies, as long as the experience gave you a sense of fulfillment or satisfaction. Also, this achievement doesn’t need to be newsworthy or earth shattering, but certainly important to you as an individual.
Now write down all the things you learned from this accomplishment; new and improved skills and also things you learned about yourself. Describe it. Talk it out with a trusted friend or relative. Take notes about how you became involved, what you were trying to do, and your role in making the event happen or accomplishing the goal.
-Repaired a leaky kitchen faucet without calling a plumber (yes…I’ve done this!)
-Earned a degree
-Learned to use a new computer program
-Saved money to buy a car
Think about how you felt after you reached your goal or accomplished the task.
That feeling probably gave you two things.
-It made you feel like a million bucks; and who wouldn’t want to feel like that again?
-It freed up your ego to go searching for the next big thing!
Hey! If you can’t think of any accomplishments, write down all the obstacles you overcame yesterday. You certainly survived at least one of them if you’re reading this today!
Remember this…when we don’t finish something, our brain is holding space for it until it’s finished. It can lead to feelings of overwhelm and being “undone”.
Accomplishments give us the exact opposite feeling. More importantly, writing these things down and reading them over from time to time will help keep you in tune with who you are and what you can do….an instant confidence builder!